This topic has been argued for a long time and it will no doubt continue.
The meaning of "Women wear the pants" is called "kakaa-Tenka" in Japan.
According to Wikipedia, "Kakaa-Tenka" means that housewives rule their household and husbands always must follow the wife.
It is often said that high percentage of Japanese families are Kakaa-Tenka style.
However, people in foreign countries think Japanese guys still have much power than woman and Japan is basically male-dominated society.
Why is there such a big gap between the actual situation and the images that comes from the people in foreign countries?
As you know, Japanese husbands are sparing in giving praise to their partners in public.
In contrast, American husbands always give their wives unreserved praise.
Also, Japanese women politicians are very few compared to the U.S.
In addition, the ratio of full-time housewife is much higher than the U.S.
With these reasons, I think this gap happened.
Back to this topic, who should wear the pants in a relationship?
According to the internet, there are a tons of comments and opinions.
Some Japanese guy said " I don't want be whipped" "I don't want to be controlled by my wife"
However, most of the people said that Kakaa-tenka(women wear the pants) always goes well compared with Teishu-Kanpaku(Chauvinistic husband)
One web site conducted an interesting web research.
They asked "Kakaa-Tenka and Teishu-kanpaku Which type is better in a relationship? " and 75% of people supported Kakaa-Tenka style.
In my opinion,
Yes, I totally agree with these opinions that Kakaa-Tenka is always going well.
Because, I think most of wives that have chauvinistic husband always endure a long and hard struggle. Husband is the only person who think the relationship is going well.
Next, even if someone said that in Kakaa-tennka, husbands have to be whipped and follow in every decisions, I think it is wrong.
I mean in Kakaa-tenka situation, husbands feel comfort because wives control
everything and husbands can concentrate on their job.
So, when the wife feels comfort, husband also feels comfort.
And ideally, wives are given freedom and real power by husbands.
Husband plays a role as if he were whipped, but actually, husband controls from the backside and makes the big decision.
Then, wife will appreciate for husband's considerations and she treats her husband with due respect in public.
But, husbands must be careful in their relationship, because wives always
become stronger after they have a kid.
Written Jun 21 revised Dec15
Internet research result
Do Women Wear the "Pants" in a Relationship?
Category: Relationships & Dating
I think it really depends on the couple and the personality of the guy and the girl. If the guy is generally laid back, or just plain whipped, then the girl always decides. If the girl is very submissive in nature, then the guy has the last say. Sometimes neither wants to admit the truth, and thus you find yourself in heated debates over a simple matter on Saturday nights.
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3 comments:
wives always become stronger after they have a kid.
Is it also true in your family?
Naomi-san
I'd rather not to say. Hahaha
"I think most of wives that have chauvinistic husband always endure a long and hard struggle" It is a very stereotyped thinking, that have been spread by mass media since 20 years ago by the feminist campaigns; but it doesnt correspond with my experience.
Its different have authority that be abusive, and every human being have the same potential to be abusive. In deed what men have to do in a job can involve more lack of liberty, submission and sacrifice, that what a man could expect her wife do for him.
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