Talking about what I recognized again about the advantages of Japanese during my temporary return to Japan are that it's safer like people can walk at night, food is delicious and especially Japanese women are beautiful and cute(kawaii). As you may know, Japanese women are popular not only in the U.S., but also all over the world. In my office, many American men married with Japanese woman and it's not rare that local American member who went to Japan as short time resident got married with Japanese woman. Why are Japanese woman popular in abroad and unfortunately, why are Japanese men NOT popular in abroad?
When I went to England as long-term business trip eight years ago, I heard that Japanese women are really popular in England and men who like only Japanese women are called "Japasen" (Japa=Japanese sen=only)
According to the internet, marrying a Japanese women means having a status in Asia countries. I've been in America for four years and I can now understand the reason why Japanese women are popular in abroad.
First of all, Japanese women always are beautiful and looks cute all time.
I mean, it's not only inborn beauty, but also their consideration. Japanese women are fashionable and they give a consideration from head to toe. If you go to Japan, you can find tons of fashion magazines at book stores and these magazines foment being beautiful as a common sense. There are some super fashionable women in the U.S., but many people don't care about their fashion compared to Japanese women. Their thinking of fashion seems to draw a line between public and private more clearly. Also, Japanese women look younger than they really are, because of their baby face. I think they also have a silky skin and they maintain their skin carefully. That's why Japanese women are popular with their good appearance.
Next, Japanese women have an advantage of their character not only their appearance. Simply put, Japanese women have an image that they are polite and modest like they are willing to make men look good among other people and these characters seem to attract the eye of American men. In the U.S., it's common that women demand their freedom and appeal their rights.
For example, women say that doing the housework by only women is unfair and they require to get the words "I love you" everyday". So, it's easy to imagine that American men would feel comfortable and be addicted if Japanese women appear in this situation who are modest like making nice dinner every day is no problem and I will follow you. In Japan, there is no thought of danson-johi （male-chauvinism）already and increasing aggressive women called "Nikushoku-kei (carnivorous) compared to before. I personally think that Japanese women seem NOT modest too much already, but from the American men point of view, they still feel that Japanese women look modest and graceful. So, as Japanese women point of view, they can be popular among American men by only giving the common thing such as making dinner every day and following men with consideration.
Unfortunately, these kind of characters wouldn't be an advantage as long as Japanese women are staying in Japan, because it's an ordinary thing in Japan. As for Japanese men, they seem to NOT realize that they are in really good situation. That's why Japanese guys lost their vitality and they are called "Soushokukei"(herbivorous). As you know, in America, men are required to be strong and be assertive, so in this situation, Japanese men are NOT popular among American women.
In conclusion, Japanese men should live their daily life in an attitude of thankfulness that they can live with beautiful and modest Japanese women. Also, Japanese women who are unpopular in Japan, they can go abroad, then they might realize their big advantage.
Written in Jan 2013
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日本人女性はなぜアメリカでもてるのか？
年末に日本に一時帰国して再認識した日本の良さと言えば夜でも歩けるくらいの安全さ、食事のおいしさなどがあるがなかでも印象的だったのが日本人女性の可愛さ、美しさである。その日本人女性がアメリカだけでなく世界的にもてています。自分のアメリカでの職場でも日本人女性と結婚している人もたくさんいるし、日本に短期駐在して日本人の嫁さんをもらって帰るといったパターンも珍しくありません。なぜこんなに海外で日本人女性はもてるのでしょうか？そして残念な事になぜ日本人男性はモテないのでしょうか？
むかしイギリスに長期出張に行ったときも友達から日本人女性はとても人気があって日本女性ばかりを狙うイギリス人のことを「ジャパ専」と呼んでいると聞いた。ネットで調べると欧米だけでなくアジア圏でも日本人女性と結婚する事は一種のステータスになっているようです。アメリカに住んで４年経ちますがなんとなくこの理由がわかるようになりました。
まずなんといっても日本人女性はいつでも小綺麗でいつまでもかわいいのである。持って生まれた美貌だけでなくその気の遣いようということである。とてもお洒落で頭のてっぺんからつま先まで気を遣っています。日本に行くと大量のファッション雑誌が本屋さんの店頭に並び、いつでも綺麗でいるというのが当たり前のように語られています。アメリカにも超お洒落で綺麗なひともいますが基本的に無頓着なひとのほうが多いし、考え方としてもっとオンとオフがはっきりしているような気がします。そして日本人女性はその顔立ちのせいで実際の年齢より若く見えます。肌も綺麗で手入れが行き届いているので若さを維持しているのでしょう。まずこのような見た目の良さで日本女性は人気があるのだと思う。
次に容姿以外の性格でもアドバンテージがあります。簡単にいうと礼儀正しくて男性をたてる控えめな性格というイメージがアメリカ人男性にとても魅力的に映っているようです。自由の国アメリカに於いては女性も自由を求め自分の権利を主張するのが当たり前なのです。例えば自分だけ家事やるのはアンフェアだとか毎日愛してると言ってだとかいろいろ主張が強いのである。そこに毎日ご飯を作っても苦にならないとかあなたの言う通りにしますとか自己主張が控えめな日本人女性が現れるとアメリカ人男性に取ってなんて快適なんだろうと思ってしまうのは容易に想像がつく。日本でも昔に比べると男尊女卑の風潮もなくなり肉食系とよばれる自己主張の強い女性も増えました。日本人の私の感覚だと日本人女性が自分を主張しない事はないように思えるがアメリカ人男性からするとまだまだ控えめで奥ゆかしくみえるのだろう。日本人女性の立場で言うと当たり前の事を普通にやっているだけでアメリカ人男性が喜んでくれるのである。
残念ながらこのような魅力は日本にいる限り当たり前の事なのでアドバンテージにはなりません。日本人男性からするとかなりいい環境にいるという事を自覚している人はいないように思います。だから最近の日本人男性すっかり行動力をなくしていわゆる草食系などと言われてしまうのですね。そして男性に強さや自己主張や決断力が求められるアメリカにおいてこのような日本人男性ははっきり言ってモテません。
結論、日本人男性は綺麗で可愛いくて性格もいい日本女性がまわりにたくさんいる事に感謝して生活しましょう。日本女性で私はモテないと感じている方はぜひ海外に行ってみましょう。自分の良さに気づく事でしょう。
